An impending divorce often leaves us with a lot of questions about everything from where we’re going to live all the way to how we’re going to support ourselves. And, when you’re going through a divorce, you may be surprised just how many people want to give you advice. But, not everything you hear about divorce is the truth. In fact, there are many myths about divorce that we’re busting here and now!
You’ll Be Stuck Forever
Whether you’re the one who filed or the one who was served, whether you want to divorce or you’re resisting it, and no matter what your personal reasons are for divorce, you might feel like you’re going to be stuck in the divorce forever. It can feel that way especially when you are in the throes of divorce, but you won’t be stuck forever. You may even be surprised just how fast you recover from the divorce and start building your own life!
It Takes Too Much [Money, Time, Effort]
This is one of the myths about divorce that seems to fit into almost any situation. No matter what your issues are, you may feel like it takes too much. Whether that means too much time, too much money, or even too much effort will all depend on your situation. But, because it seems to take too much, many people reconcile. Couples who think they don’t have the time, energy, or money to spend on a divorce may end up staying in an unhappy and unhealthy relationship. The fact is that while it may seem like too much at the time, that too much will almost always turn into worth it. Divorce is expensive. It takes time. It can be difficult. But, many couples also find happiness in the end results.
You Cheated, So You’ll Lose it All
While this may have been the case many years ago, states have adopted their own rules and regulations regarding adultery. And, even with those in place, many courts will look at specific factors and information about your case before determining what will happen. Even if you did cheat and you do end up having to pay spousal support (which may not even happen), Nevada has clear guidelines that can help you determine what you’ll be required to pay.
Divorce is More Costly Than the Wedding
Depending on the size of your wedding and various factors going into your divorce, you may end up spending more on the divorce than the wedding. But, this is often not the case. Of course, if you have children, assets, high conflicts, and a complicated case, it could, but divorce could be less expensive than you paid for your wedding (which probably doesn’t actually matter, but can be satisfying especially if the marriage was a difficult one).
You’ll Do it Right the Next Time
Many people who go through divorce and are planning their fresh new start believe that they’ll have a better perspective on things during their next relationship and possible marriage. And, while you will have a different point of view than you did during your first (or second, or beyond) marriage, it doesn’t always mean you’ll do it right the next time. Even if you are able to learn positive lessons from your divorce, you’ll still have many other factors to contend with a new relationship or marriage.
You’re Going to Be Destitute After
This just isn’t true in most instances. While divorce is a costly process, if you are able to manage your finances the right way throughout the divorce and plan appropriately for after the divorce, you will be able to be more financially successful after the divorce. Making sure that you have a plan in place for your finances and that you know what to expect can help set you up for success.
Going through divorce is a difficult process, but adding things like myths about divorce that are commonly accepted in friend groups and beyond can make it even worse. Make sure that you know the truth about various divorce subjects before you start! And, also having a professional on your side can’t hurt! Contact Wiser Divorce Solutions today for more information about your divorce finances.