The first summer after divorce can feel like a real bummer. This is especially true if your income significantly changed or if you’re used to traditions like going on vacations or hitting up your favorite amusement parks. But, you can enjoy the warmer weathered months even if you’re doing things you’re not totally used to! Here are some tips for having a fun summer post-divorce!
Make Your Plans
The sooner you plan for your summer activities, the better. When you plan things like trips, vacations, games, parties, and more, the easier it’ll be to save the money for them. As with all things related to divorce (and life in general, really), having a financial plan is crucial to get ahead of things. Plus, who doesn’t love spending time planning out all the fun things to do during the summer months?
Many custody arrangements are built to have vacations factored in. Make sure you are aware of yours and you know your vacation situation. A common situation is having your children for an extra week if you have evenly split time while your ex also gets them an extra week at a different time. Another common arrangement is for weekend parents to have their children for longer periods of time during the summer months since they don’t have to worry about the disruption of school. No matter what your situation is, make sure you review your custody documents and familiarize yourself with it. It’s also important to remember that having a little grace and compromising instead of being difficult can go a long way when trying to make plans over the summer.
If you’re used to a huge multi-family trip to the Outer Banks of North Carolina or an elaborate vacation in a tropical locale, the idea of heading out to your local beach for some rays can seem really disappointing. But, discount trips can often be the most fun. If you’re trying to save money, you might have to skimp on some things that you’re used to, but it’s still one of the best ways to make memories as a family. Even if you’re not able to go anywhere, staycations can be a fun way to enjoy the summer while saving a lot of cash.
The summer after divorce is probably too soon to start planning co-family trips together with your ex (and nobody would expect you to be ready for that ever), but spending a little time co-parenting can make a world of difference for your kids. This can be something as simple as meeting each other for ice cream and letting the kids play while seeing you two interact as civil adults. Or, it could be something more elaborate. Prioritizing the kids during this summer will be crucial. This is also their first summer post-divorce so trying to make things a little more normal can be helpful.
Enjoy the Freedom
Whether you have children or not, there’s a certain sense of freedom that comes with divorcing. And, that freedom gets even sweeter during the summer. If you have a shared custody situation, take the time away from your children to do some fun summer activities on your own or with friends (and don’t feel guilty about it). Or, if you don’t have children, summer is the perfect time to do some self-care or self-exploration activities. Make sure you take time for yourself and enjoy the freedom of the first summer after your divorce!
It’s important to remember that your divorce is not the end. In fact, it’s a new beginning. New beginnings can pose unique challenges and bring about unique situations. Make sure that you’re financially prepared for these challenges. Wiser Divorce Solutions provides you with comprehensive financial planning during divorce and post-divorce. Contact us today and work with a certified divorce financial analyst.